Instructions Instructions depend on if my readers answer as a parent or child:
If you are a parent, I'll ask that the four paragraphs I present below choose one that best describes your relationship with your children.
And if you are a child, I will ask you do the exercise thinking about which of the following paragraphs, do you think would be your dad or mom talking:
a) I show my love and my affection. I'm the kind of father (or mother) that I do not always have to give explanation of where they go, with whom, and when they arrive. If they later than I gave them permission, if they leave without permission or do not do anything I asked, not always scolding or punishment, which are busy with their things and there are always setbacks, and if I get to punish them remove the penalty shortly. I give permission to behave as they want at parties, family gatherings and social events. I put rules that can be flexible about how it should be, the way they should behave, or how to talk or dress, as are boys. I am very demanding with them, let them act freely and make their own decisions.
b) I'm a little emotional (a), I prefer to drive (a) and serious (a) to be obedient. I'm very demanding, I expect my orders are obeyed without explanation, and when I ask for explanation, I usually remind them that I am your father (or mother) and I know that things must be so. Say how things should be done at home or when we, young people should not make decisions. I tell them how they should be, how they should act, how they should behave, how they speak and dress. If you arrive later than allowed, or if they do what they ask or if you leave without permission or do not warn where and who they are, are punished and scolded severely. By the same token, I know, hardly break the rules I've imposed at home. They have some explanations about what they do, where they go and who they are. I know who are your friends, and when one of them I do not like or do not like some of his behavior, I asked them to leave the friendship.
c) I'm not demanding, let them act freely and make their decisions. I know their tastes, or their friends. They are like want to be, act or behave, talk or dress. At home there are no rules or standards. In fact they do not reprimand or punishment. When they leave I know who do well but do not know where to go or who to go or what time they return. Do not show my love and affection, apparently I did not care, they must learn to grow up alone. Therefore, does not put them rules. Every once in a while we talked and we live together.
d) I show my love and affection. Let them make their own decisions and respect. When you go to a party, family gathering or a social event, I worry that their conduct is right for the occasion. Communicating with them is open, you can talk about your tastes, problems and concerns without fear of going to scold. Let them choose their way of being, act, behave, talk or dress, if not go against the norms and rules they have imposed. I put clear rules and firm, scolding them and / or punishment when necessary. I am interested in knowing their friends, sometimes talk to them to know them better. When they leave, I want to know who you are, where they go, and when they arrive.
Clarification.
We have designed and made some studies aimed to validate a form of this instrument (which we called "Instrument of Parenting Styles as Perceived Parenting"), and have even begun to publish some results in this regard. But for now, I want my reader to consider the instrument presented here as a guide, nothing hard, or even standardized. It serves as self-observation and to make sense to issues Authoritative Parenting, Effective Parenting, which I will touch on another entry in this blog. Each of the preceding paragraphs of instument, refer to different styles of parenting, and in this case are: permissive, authoritarian, neglectful and authoritative, respectively.
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